“Don’t listen to those who say ‘you are taking too big a chance.’ Michelangelo would have painted the Sistine floor, and it would surely be rubbed out by today. Most important, don’t listen when the little voice of fear inside you rears its ugly head and says ‘they all smarter than you out there. They’re more talented, they’re taller, blonder, prettier, luckier, and they have connections.” I firmly believe that if you follow a path that interests you, not to the exclusion of love, sensitivity, and cooperation with others, but with the strength of conviction that you can move others by your own efforts—and do not make success or failure the criteria by which you live—the chances are you’ll be a person worthy of your own respects. – Neil Simon”
At 23 the pressure is on for me to decide what I need to be doing and what I want to do. And to be completely honest with you, I’m not sure what that is. Neil Simon just gave me the push I needed to take the first step in taking a risk. I enjoy writing and arts and craft. So why not start a blog and make items I can sell. The thought alone scares me.! What if nobody likes what I post or make.? All the usual “what if’s” questions popped into my head. The first step is always the hardest.
This post is for anyone who’s scared to step out and take the risk. Just ask yourself this, “What do I have to lose?”. What if by you taking that risk changes your life for better. The impact you can make for yourself and others. I know it’s scary and it’s new but at the same time it’s fun and exciting. If you’re anything like me you’re worried about failing. Oh, but if you never try you’ve already failed.
The beauty of trying new things is that the next time you do it and it doesn’t work out, you can try it another way. The best example I can give is, five plus five equals ten, but so those seven plus three. If you fail while trying, get back up and try again. That’s something I’m learning myself. Life is one big risk it’s up to you how big of a risk you’re willing to take. So let’s dream big and act upon those dreams.
As the great Lucille Bell once said “Love yourself first and everything else falls in line.” Self-love starts in the inside. You can’t “correctly” love someone if you don’t yet know how to love yourself. I have three steps to get you on the right path of self-love. First, get to know yourself (inside and out). Secondly, accept who you are and what you stand for. And lastly, enforce that self-love so that others will recognize that you’re AWESOME.
The first step to self-love is getting to know yourself. Take time out to get to know who you are inside and out. Find what makes you genuinely happy. That could be spending a few days alone to recharge. Take that alone time to find out what you will and will not allow. Not only from a lover, but from family, allies, and coworkers! And lastly set up ground rules about what you will and will not let happen in your life.
Secondly, accept the real you. That’s going to take some time as well. For you’re just discovering who you are and falling in love with yourself. You’re learning how to be enough for yourself. Once you open your eyes and see how beautiful, sassy, strong, and unique you are; you’ll love yourself even more. The sooner you embrace the new and improved you the better you’ll feel about your life. You’ll have a whole new mindset on life. Your old ways and habits will be replaced by fresh ones.
Lastly, it’s now time to “enforce” this “new” and improved you to others. What I mean by “enforce” is to simply let others recognize that you know your worth. The matters that left you sad or stressed won’t affect you anymore. You’ve set the ground rules of what you will and will not allow. You now know how priceless you are. You’ll recognize when to walk away from a negative or stressful situation.
In conclusion the journey of loving yourself unconditionally is a process. Some days you’ll feel like giving up and settle for less than what you deserve. I’m speaking purely from personal experience. Don’t give in and fall for less. You’re a queen/king and you deserve and have every right to be treated like one. Don’t settle for a half real, half fake relationship, friendship, or treatment. Once you learn to genuinely love you, flaws and all, everyone else will also.
Peace, Love, Hope and Faith
As children our parents would ask us what we desired to be when we grew up. And we’d answer back: a princess, NBA or NFL star, actor, singer, etc. We couldn’t wait to grow up and become a “grown up”. Being so young we didn’t fully know or understood what it took to be an adult and go after our dreams. Here’s my plan on my hopes, dreams, and goals for my future.
When I was six or seven my parents asked me what I wanted to be when I grew up. I wanted to be a doctor that worked with babies. My dad told me “It’s your duty to find out what that doctor is called.” At the age of seven I knew I wanted to be an OB/GYN. In high school, I took up nursing, emergency medicine, and medical terminology. I enjoyed the feeling I got when my patients expressed I was doing a good job. For the past eleven years I worked towards becoming an OB/GYN. I never lost sight of my plan and I never changed my mind about it. That was until the concluding week of my senior year of high school.
One week before graduation I had to meet with my guidance counselor. It was then that I realized that I didn’t want to go into the medical field. When I told her and my nursing teacher they were both shocked. I was shocked myself and I didn’t know if I was making the right decisions. I wanted to study culinary arts.
Fast forward a little and skip over the boring parts and challenges I had to confront. I went after my dream and enrolled in a culinary school. Unfortunately, I only stayed there for a year and a half. I came back home, but I’m not giving up on my dream.
My hopes and dreams are to re-enroll and get my degree. I also want to have my own bakery. If I can be of any aid or inspiration to anyone don’t give up on your dream. I know it sounds cliche to say that! You know the saying “anything worth keeping is worth fighting for.” Know that there will hard times but they won’t last forever. My advice is to get you a support system of people that will encourage and lift you upward.
Peace, Love, Hope and Faith
Hello, this is my first blog and my first time blogging. I’m beyond excited and also insanely nervous. I enjoy writing and I have so many ideas and subjects I want to write about. Thus, what a better way other than start a blog. I hope my blog posts will aid and inspire others. I only ask that you be patient with me. Hopefully I’ll get the hang of this blogging thing very soon. I likewise have a twitter account (ChattingWithCat) and a YouTube account (chattingwithcat).